When people tell single women to “just find a good man at church,” I always want to ask: Have you been to church lately? Because let’s be honest, most of the single guys there are either 19 years old, 79 years old, or still trying to figure out if cargo shorts count as dress pants.
So if you’re ready for a mature, masculine, marriage-minded man, it’s time to broaden the playing field. Here’s where to look when the pews come up empty:
1. Serve Where He Serves
Mature men don’t just talk about responsibility, they live it. Translation? They show up to volunteer, mentor, and give back.
Think: Men’s mentoring programs, homeless outreach, or faith-based charities. These aren’t just good men, they’re grown men who know what it means to lay their life down for others. Spoiler: That’s husband material.
2. Step Into Community Spaces
If your social life is stuck in a Netflix-and-pajamas rut, it’s time to change the channel. Christian conferences, Bible studies at coffee shops, networking events, or even entrepreneurial meetups are crawling with men who actually like growth and accountability (and yes, you want a man who’s accountable to more than his fantasy football league).
3. Everyday Errands Count
Ladies, stop rushing through Target like you’re on “Supermarket Sweep.” Look up. Smile. Make eye contact.
Mature men are out there living life: At the gym, the grocery store, the farmer’s market, or even at the gas pump (Yes, you can meet your husband while pumping gas, just don’t overfill your tank trying to look cute).
4. Use Online (Without Losing Your Mind)
Online dating gets a bad rap, but when used intentionally, it works. Your profile is not the place for vague vibes, be clear: Faith, values, marriage. If a guy wants to “see where this goes,” you already know where it’s going: Nowhere. Don’t waste three weeks texting. Move it to a video call or a meet up.
5. Expand Your World
If your dating pool feels like a puddle, it’s time to expand the pond. Retreats, group trips, and experiences designed for singles create natural connection points. Plus, nothing bonds people faster than being stuck on a bus in a foreign country with no Wi-Fi.
✨ Final Thought
Marriage-minded Christian men are not hiding in some secret cave, waiting for a prophet to tell them when to emerge. They’re living, leading, and serving all around you. The real question is, are you positioned to meet them?
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