So many women are out here exhausting themselves in the modern dating scene, trying to be the most attractive option in a sea of competition. They’re dieting, contouring, editing, posing, and endlessly scrolling—hoping that if they can outshine the other women, they’ll finally be chosen.
Now, don’t get me wrong—it’s beautiful and powerful to invest in yourself, to grow, to get healthy, to become the very best version of you. But here’s the truth that no swipe-based culture will ever tell you:
You don’t need all men to be attracted to you. You don’t need to be everyone’s type. You don’t need to win the attention of the crowd.
You just need one.
The Moment That Changes Everything
Recently, I was talking to a man who shared a story about a woman in his community. He said she wasn’t the prettiest woman in the room. She wasn’t the most talented either. But there was this moment, an ordinary day, nothing special, and he happened to look across the room and saw her differently.
It was like the atmosphere shifted. The scales fell off his eyes. She went from being “just another person” to suddenly being the woman who captured his heart.
That’s the mystery of love. That’s the favor Proverbs 18:22 talks about:
“He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
It’s not about being flawless. It’s about being recognized. And in God’s timing, recognition is supernatural.
Spiritmate Love Isn’t About Competing
Your spiritmate isn’t going to choose you because you are the hottest in the room or have the most desirable body. He’s going to love you because of your feminine heart, your essence, the very things that make you you.
There are aspects of your personality, your story, even your scars that will draw him. The things you thought disqualified you may be the very things that cause him to see you as “the one for him.”
And when that moment comes, it won’t matter how many other women are in the room. He won’t be distracted by options. His eyes will be opened to you, and only you.
8 Billion People, One Yes
Think about it: There are over 8 billion people in the world. You don’t need all of them to notice you. You don’t need 100 men lining up.
You just need one yes. One man whose spirit recognizes yours. One divine connection that makes sense of all the waiting, the heartbreaks, the lessons, and the prayers.
The Invitation
So stop striving to be the “best pick” in a crowded marketplace. Stop trying to win all the attention. Instead, prepare your heart. Become the woman who is ready to be seen.
Because when it happens, it won’t be because you attracted all the men. It will be because the right man, your spiritmate, looked up and finally saw you.
✨ This could be your Last Year Single.
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