🕊️ The Church’s Blind Spot
Let’s tell the truth, most singles in the Church aren’t struggling because they lack faith.
They’re struggling because they lack support.
Many are faithfully serving, giving, leading, and showing up week after week… yet they feel unseen when it comes to one of the most important parts of their lives: Relationships.
I’ve heard pastors say, “We don’t believe in singles’ ministry because it leads to sin.”
But ignoring singles doesn’t create holiness. It creates isolation.
And isolation is a breeding ground for confusion, shame, and hopelessness.
🙌 To the Churches That See Singles: Thank You
Before I challenge what’s missing, I want to honor what’s working.
To the pastors and leaders who see your single members… thank you.
To the churches that provide real community beyond the “young adult pizza night,” thank you.
To those who understand that healing, preparation, and partnership are part of spiritual growth, you’re building something sacred.
And to every community that’s embracing the idea of Spirit-led, community-based matchmaking — you’re not meddling; you’re ministering.
Because before there were dating apps and algorithms, there were families of faith helping connect purpose to purpose and person to person. That was God’s design from the very beginning.
📖 God’s Ancient Way Has Always Been Community
When Abraham wanted a wife for Isaac, he didn’t tell him to “just wait and see.” He sent a trusted servant who prayed, discerned, and acted.
When Ruth met Boaz, it wasn’t random, Naomi guided her into divine alignment.
From Genesis to the Gospels, God used people to bring people together. He never asked us to navigate relationships in isolation.
He asked us to walk it out in community, with counsel, wisdom, and covering.
“Before dating apps and DMs, covenant connections were cultivated through community.”
💔 What Happens When the Church Ignores Singles
When churches overlook singles, it’s not neutral — it’s costly.
- Men remain unchallenged. They’re told to “lead one day” but rarely discipled in what leadership looks like right now.
- Women become over-prepared and under-pursued. They’re doing the work, the healing, the prayer but often carrying the weight of two people’s readiness.
- Culture fills the gap. And when culture defines connection instead of the Church, we end up with compromise instead of covenant.
This is not a judgment, it’s a wake-up call. Because a generation of believers who love God but don’t know how to love each other is not the will of Heaven.
❤️ Matchmaking Isn’t Messy — It’s Ministry
Helping people meet and marry well is not a distraction from ministry, it is ministry. It’s discipleship in its most practical form.
When trusted leaders help singles connect through prayer, wisdom, and discernment, it removes pressure and brings purity.
It’s time to reclaim matchmaking as a holy assignment.
What if pastors and mentors saw introducing two healthy, ready believers as just as sacred as performing their wedding?
What if the Church became known again as the safest, healthiest place to find your person?
That’s the divine design of community and family.
“If we believe marriage is holy, then preparing people for marriage must also be holy work.”
🔥 The Forgotten Calling
If we believe in family, we must also believe in how family begins.
If we celebrate marriage, we must also equip people for marriage readiness.
We can’t keep telling singles to “trust God’s timing” while refusing to give them tools, teaching, and connection.
We can’t keep preaching about covenant and ignoring the community that helps make covenant possible.
Church — this is a call to remember your role.
To see your singles not as “waiting rooms,” but as future legacy builders.
To call men into maturity.
To champion women in their desire for marriage and children.
To build spaces where faith, friendship, and future families can form naturally and beautifully.
This is not about rushing God’s process, it’s about partnering with it.
🌹 To Every Single Reading This
If your church doesn’t see you, God still does.
But He’s not asking you to ignore your desire, He’s inviting you to prepare.
That’s why I created Last Year Single™, to help you heal, grow, and get ready for the love story Heaven has already been writing.
Because you were never meant to do this alone. Marriage starts in community. It always has.
If your church doesn’t know what to do with singles like you… I do!
We don’t just help you wait—we help you step into your love story fully ready and prepared.
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